Articles by LynetteHoy

Your Marriage Can Change

Question From A Reader: We are having serious difficulties in our marriage. Where can we begin to get help? Answer: Most married couples have gone through intense times of trials or stages in their relationship….


Unhealthy Relationships

Unfaithful and Critical Fiance Question: This summer I found out from my fiancé’s sister that he was sexually abused when he was little. We have been together for almost 5 1/2 years and he has…


Rebuilding Trust In Your Spouse

Working to Restore Trust One of my clients once asked me what it means to trust another human being. She wanted to know how she should react when a spouse or significant other is dishonest,…


Empathy – Communicating with the Heart

Building Relationships with Empathy by Entering Someone’s World: One of the best ways to endear people to yourself is to be able to ask them questions about themselves and to really listen to what they…



Understanding Grief

The Stages and Symptoms of Grief Once a person faces the reality of a loss in his/her life he/she must experience grief. Because grief is a process, someone said, “The only way out of grief…



Overwhelmed by Anxiety?

Question: I am having problems with feeling anxious. What are some of the causes of anxiety and when should I get help? Answer: Anxiety is one of this century’s most common problems. We live in…


What Makes Forgiveness So Hard?

Forgiveness versus Resentment Why Forgiveness is so Hard? And how we can change? Human behavior that suggests that people are “hard-wired” to experience ruptured relational bonds, psychological distance, physiological arousal, and the desire to retaliate…


Coping with a Crisis in Your life

Coping with Crisis and Trauma Coping with the Aftermath of Violence and Trauma by Lynette J. Hoy, NCC, LCPC, CAMS-V We live in a world filled with change and crisis. The on-going violence and terror…