Articles by LynetteHoy

What Makes Forgiveness So Hard?

Forgiveness versus Resentment Why Forgiveness is so Hard? And how we can change? Human behavior that suggests that people are “hard-wired” to experience ruptured relational bonds, psychological distance, physiological arousal, and the desire to retaliate…


New: You Can Forgive

When we are working through anger — it always brings up questions about forgiveness. Why? Because anger feels justified. We want remuneration. We want recognition for what we have lost or consolation for how we…


Why Does God Allow Suffering?

The Problem of Evil and Suffering Question: Dear Counselor: I cannot understand why God allowed the tragedies such as the school shootings and killings in Littleton, Colorado, the 9/11 terrorist attacks on the Pentagon and the World…


Managing Stress

Coping with Stress Stress is one of our society’s greatest dilemmas. We feel it every day…pressure, strain, tension, sometimes burn-out. What is it that causes stress? What makes it so prominent today? How can we…


What’s Good About Anger? Dealing with Rage 2021

July, 2021 newsletter New What’s Good About Anger? Dealing with Rage! Fifth Edition! Blog post: Can’t Get Rid of the Rage! Obtain certification as an Anger Management Specialist with the National Anger Management Association by…



Rebuilding Trust In Your Spouse

Working to Restore Trust One of my clients once asked me what it means to trust another human being. She wanted to know how she should react when a spouse or significant other is dishonest,…


Recovering from Grief and Loss

Growing Through Grief A lot of us are experiencing feelings of grief and loss personally and since the pandemic started in March, 2020. Also, many are dealing with grief due to political and world upheaval….



Handling Addiction – What You Can Do

Addiction: What Is The Cure? Maybe you are struggling with an alcohol or drug addiction. Maybe you have a sexual addiction of some kind. Maybe you have a spending, eating or gambling addiction. Here are…